The Art Of Getting What You Want

We all have goals and wishes in life. But not all of us are able to get what we want. Some of us simply don’t try to achieve our goals. And those who do, lack of the right approach leads them to failure.
If you don’t try, that surely is your mistake. But if you try a lot but don’t succeed we are here to help. As we said in the beginning, the right approach matters a lot. It’s time to pay attention to where you are lacking.
Here’s what Swami Vivekananda has said on success-
“Take up one idea. Make that one idea your life-think of it, dream of it, live on that idea. Let the brain, muscles, nerves, every part of your body, be full of that idea, and just leave every other idea alone. This is the way to success”.
So let’s get started and see how you can get what you want –

Just ask TOT IL

Yes, we are asking you to do so. But a study also supports asking for what you want. Frank Flynn, associate professor of organizational behavior at Stanford GSB, carried out research with other scientists. It concludes that if you want something, you should ask for it because people are ready to help.
Flynn says, “People are more willing to help than you think, and that can be important to know when you’re trying to get the resources you need to get a job done, when you’re trying to solicit funds, or what have you”.
The problem is we just don’t ask. We fear that the person we want favor from, might deny and if denied we will feel embarrassed. So, we prefer not to ask and this is how we miss a good chance of getting what we want.
So next time you want something, better to ask for it.

Persistence is the key

“You never know what’s around the corner. It could be everything. Or it could be nothing. You keep putting one foot in front of the other, and then one day you look back and you’ve climbed a mountain” – Tom Hiddleston
Without persistence, it’s impossible to achieve your goal. Only continuous and right efforts towards your goal lead you to success. Whether it’s academics, sports or any other field for that matter. All the famous personalities you see today have this common factor called persistence.
Once you choose to do something, don’t stop until you achieve it. Yes, it’s easy to get tired during the journey, you feel like quitting sometimes, but then persistence means continuously moving towards your goal whatsoever.

Get up when you fall

Failures can easily break your heart. Many people find it hard to continue the journey to their goal if they fail. If you also find it hard to get up when you fall, pay attention to what we are going to tell you. A study has proved that failure is a must to achieve success.
Wang, associate professor at Northwestern’s Kellogg School of Management, who also led the study says, “You have to figure out what worked and what didn’t, and then focus on what needs to be improved instead of thrashing around and changing everything”.
Wang adds, “The people who failed didn’t necessarily work less (than those who succeeded). They could actually have worked more; it’s just that they made more unnecessary changes”.
It won’t be wrong to say that success is hidden in failure. So don’t worry if you fail, just keep going and one day you will reach great heights in your career and life.
Last but not the least, there is a very good and easy way to get what you want. And that is to follow those who have already got what you are trying to achieve. Read about such people if they are famous personalities. If possible, try to talk to them and understand what they did to get success in their field.
These tips and suggestions will surely help you find success in life. In fact we are very positive about everybody (who decides to make these efforts) out there

AADI GARG

M.A. (Psy.), DCGC(NCERT), RCI REGD.
PSYCHOLOGIST | CAREER COUNSELOR

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